Saturday, June 29, 2013

A good year

A year ago today we left Colorado Springs after an all-nighter packing, a teary dawn farewell to the mountain trails, a last day at daycare and daycamp, and smoke billowing in the rearview mirror as we drove northeast from the wildfires and from Air Force One, which was touching down to survey disaster. At the time it felt like we were fleeing everything, with little sense of what lay ahead. Tom had no job, we'd never seen our apartment, we didn't know the area, and we weren't even sure the school was functional.

Today we enjoyed a warm, sunny family day on the Main Line, where everything is green and lush from regular rain, and where we alternated time between friends and places we've come to know and love in a year, those who have resurfaced after 25 years, and those that were brand new just today. We've done a great deal in a year and while still settling, we are grateful for all that has been.

At the beginning of this month I completed a wonderful first year of teaching middle and high school, capped by marching into commencement in those rather vivid velvet orange doctoral stripes, my eighth graders asking what those were and why I hadn't worn my robe for our class's mock trials (and the juniors asking why the stripes weren't Yale blue). Yesterday I completed a successful three weeks of hermetic curriculum work--shades of the archives--revamping two courses wholesale, in league with a colleague who has become a great working partner and friend. Monday I will officially become department chair.

Tomorrow Tom will officially complete his role as half-time youth pastor at the church where he has made himself integral over the past year. Monday he will begin as full-time pastor of a range of ministries at the same church--developing laypersons' gifts, coordinating social justice work, and overseeing a broader youth program. He will fly to Puerto Rico with a group on a mission trip next week. He is respected, trusted, and valued for what he has to offer, and he has developed a new community in Haddonfield, while renewing connections with the broader community of New Jersey Methodist clergy who have nurtured him from the beginning.

This morning we all went to the Farmers' Market, one of our first finds in Bryn Mawr last July and still a favorite outing. Now Edith is able to ride her two-wheeler there, which she does with glee. Now we bump into people we know.

Afterwards we found our way to a lovely new park in this labyrinthine township of multiple villages, to meet up with one of my earliest childhood friends, whom I had not seen since eighth grade. (He found me when his wife noticed my post on Facebook about living a mile from the U.S. Open.) Those early friendships run deep, and it wasn't hard for us to feel quickly on common ground. He and his wife and their three children, two of whom match ours chronologically, live just a few miles away. Within half an hour he had invited Tom to his standing guys' night out, and we all agreed to take advantage of summer downtime to get together. It has been hard to form friendships locally that are not connected to work, since we have neither a neighborhood nor a church here. Now we have a chance to build a "new" friendship with a running headstart, thanks to years of formative shared history.

Since we live in a 19th-century summer resort hotel, we decided to spend the afternoon as if we were vacationing at a 19th-century summer resort hotel. The wide front porches with their cushioned black wicker furniture have become one of our favorite spots, and we carried down books, games, and bikes (yes, they're big enough for little people to bike) and spent the afternoon in the company of a neighbor couple/Edith's Mandarin teacher, playing Pictionary Jr. for the first time. It turns out that even Alice is up to the task; rudimentary drawing skills prove all that are needed when the player comprehends the task at hand. She was an avid competitor, gleeful at guessing Mary Poppins correctly before anyone else and chortling half an hour later over her efforts to draw "outhouse" and "nose hair."

Farmers' market veggies, cheese, and crackers for dinner, children in bed by 8 (a small miracle), and parents now trading off workouts in our private fitness center.

Not a bad year at all.

Tuesday, June 25, 2013

Non-parents: How often does your day start with a frontal attack?

A few days ago.

A, waking up grouchy: MomMMEEEE!! MomEEEEE!!!

Me, eventually going in: Good morning.

A: I'm NOT GOING to camp today.

Me: That's fine; it's Saturday. There's no camp.

A, scowling: Fine. Then I'm NOT GOING yesterday! I hate you.

One of those moments when I was reminded that the problem isn't always mine. But good grief, is it exhausting.

Wednesday, June 19, 2013

Farewell, sweet spring

It has been a joy to be back in the land of spring blossoms this year. As we ease into summer on a delightful string of sunny 75-degree days, I thought I'd post some impressions of our first spring in Pennsylvania.

 
 
Home sweet home
 
Teachers (and clergy) try to blend in for a night among the $17,000-bid-per-African-safari live-auction crowd at the school fundraising gala*


*They sold six safaris at that level, by the way.

Sunday, June 02, 2013

"Daddy's a real minister!"


I've posted on Facebook about Tom's moving ordination service at the Greater New Jersey Annual Methodist Conference's convention in Wildwood, New Jersey, this past weekend. (Ever since Tom has been attending annual conference, it has been held at the drab Valley Forge Convention Center in Valley Forge, PA, because the NJ Methodists couldn't afford to convene anywhere in NJ except at the casinos in Atlantic City, and that seemed inappropriate. Then this year, just when we moved 7 miles from Valley Forge, (1) the VF Convention Center put in slot machines and (2) Hurricane Sandy prompted an economic recovery push along the NJ coast, and the Methodists packed their bags and headed for the Jersey Shore, expense or no.)

For those of you thinking, "Wait, I thought Tom was already a minister," you're right. The Methodists make this a two-step process. He was commissioned as a minister four years ago; the intervening period has served as something of a trial period. He has been a minister, he did the work of a minister, he got paid as a minister, but he still was under supervision and mentorship, and they reserved the right to kick him out of the order of clergy if things weren't going well. Think about it perhaps like a medical residency period, or academia pre-tenure.

Given that this service marked the affirmation of a call already in process, Tom didn't expect it to be as moving for him as it was, and that made the weekend doubly gratifying. There are some good pictures of the occasion at www.gnjumc.org/. For me, it was moving to see everyone from Tom's family, to some of our closest church friends from Princeton, to our new Bryn Mawr and Haddonfield friends all there to support him. (Others were watching the live streaming online.) There were friends stationed in key places during the service, too: The fellow deacon with whom he originally was going through the process at Princeton UMC, who was ordained last year, was tasked with holding the bishop's i-Pad and was right behind the bishop as he ordained Tom. Tom's new friend at Haddonfield UMC was the camera man doing official video right at the foot of the stage, while an old friend from Princeton was taking the still photographs on stage. Tom's Princeton UMC senior pastor and mentor is the head of the Board of Ordained Ministry and also was on the chancel. Edith and I got to sit in the third row of the vast convention center, right on the center aisle, directly behind our good friend David Mertz, serving as Tom's official sponsor for the occasion, who was sitting behind Tom himself. Suffice it to say that for people who have felt as mobile and rootless as we have, it meant a great deal to have so many faces from different eras of our lives together in one place.

For those of you who supported our trip to Congo several years ago, you should know that another wonderful outcome of this conference was that Wings of the Morning, the emergency airlift operation with which we flew in Congo that has been fundraising for a more efficient plane to increase their ability to save lives in the bush, has finally achieved their goal. Our friend and pilot from Congo, Gaston, was at the conference, and he flew the new plane along the beach in celebration, before he heads with it for Africa.

Speaking of the beach...

As always, this is the girls' blog. And while they were good as gold at the ordination service, ask them about conference and you will get a different account than above.

Oh, they'll agree that conference was fantastic. But why?

Ocean. Sand castles. Water slides. Roller coaster. Fudge. French fries. Boardwalk.

Yes, the Greater New Jersey Methodist Annual Conference 2013 looked to Edith and Alice's eyes something like this:

 




I didn't have my good zoom lens, but Edith and Tom are on there, seconds away from Edith's first upside-down turn on a roller coaster:



A special start to a new chapter for Tom. A satisfying start to summer vacation for E. and A.